I. Succeed from your strengths!
Partially because I didn’t receive formal therapy, but also because I needed to grow up, I did not get a handle on my ADHD until I was in my 20’s. What happened is that I became a father. All of a sudden I was motivated. I looked at my son and thought “he deserves better than a slacker parent.” I enrolled in college and started to apply all the study and organizational strategies I’d been taught but stubbornly refused to use in high school. A funny thing happened, I started getting straight A’s. In fact, I maintained a 4. GPA for 6 straight semesters in my undergraduate program. It was hard work at first and I had to be very disciplined, but I didn’t want to let my baby son down. Over time though, it got easier as I got habituated to doing these things. Pretty soon I could tap into my super focus whenever I wanted.
Today, I’m still hyperactive (I cannot sit still). I can be impulsive. I talk too fast. I procrastinate. BUT I can control that when the circumstances call for it. I run a successful private practice. I pay the bills. I have a good life. As long as I have goals that motivate then my ADHD brain works FOR me rather than against me.
Here’s the bottom line. If you have ADHD or think you might have ADHD, then here is what you need to do to be successful:
- Stop internalizing the bad messages from the world around you. Stop internalizing the daily little failures as a measure of your self-worth. It’s not necessary and it just drags you down. You may be forgetful at times…but so what? Focus on the positives. Celebrate your strengths.
- Find your passion! Figure what things engage your focus and then work them into as much of your day-to-day life as possible. This will help make boring activities more engaging.
- Always have a goal with firm deadlines. This will help stave off procrastination. Don’t just say “I’ll do _____ someday.” Or “I will get to it later.” Set a day and time and then get it done. You might do it last-minute…that’s ok as long as you meet your goal. When you meet your goal…set a new goal. Never be without a goal.
- Look for new passions so you can change things up. Remember, boredom is the enemy! Keep it fresh. It’s ok to rotate through interests. Going through two or three things then returning to the first thing as you feel like it.
- Learn how to organize and engage your focus even in low-stim situations. It’s difficult. It takes time. But, sometimes we just have to gut through the boredom.
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